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(Relationship mindset coach and intimacy expert, mentor to coaches, speaker, workshop presenter, blogger, popular repeat podcast guest)
As a former Apple engineer turned international sex and intimacy educator and relationship coach, I'm now celebrating my 25th year of helping couples co-create a thriving, fulfilling life partnership and a gourmet love life. Over the years my work has garnered mentions in Business Insider, Playboy, Tim Ferriss's 4-Hour series, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere.
I've taught workshops of 12 to 250+ and spoken to groups of up to 800. I've written for The Good Men Project, Better Humans, Sexography, and my own Medium publication The Craft Of Intimate Coupledom. As of 2023 I have a combined reach of nearly 15k followers between Facebook, Instagram, and Medium. I've been asked back for repeat appearances on multiple podcasts.
This year I'm focusing on helping "precipice" couples understand the difference between a promising relationship and a thriving, long-lasting life partnership—what's possible for them and what it would take to get there—so they can have the clarity they need to commit fully, or break up amicably.
I think great conversations can be sparked by anything the interviewer is genuinely interested or curious about regarding love, intimacy, and partnership. I also love talking about:
- What makes a relationship feel like "work," vs. "flow"
- Is your relationship generative—both people getting more than they put in—or draining?
- Why Masculine/Feminine-based models are failing, and probably can't be salvaged—and what might be a better approach
- How to deal with jealousy. (Hint: it depends on whether it's envy, insecurity, or possessiveness)
- How to have a sex life that gets progressively better over time
- Dealing with strong emotions (e.g. anger) without causing wreckage
- How to "open" your relationship successfully
- Why the idea that "men want sex and women want love" might actually be backward
- How emotions evolved (and why it matters)
- You never have to compromise in relationship
- There's no such thing as "emasculation"
Good jumping off questions for a lively discussion:
- Can couples have a mutually enjoyable love life over the long term? How?
- What's your advice for couples who are prone to fighting or arguing?
- What do you think about the growing trend of couples "opening" their relationship? Is that crazy or feasible?
- How do you deal with jealousy?
- Why do some relationships feel like work, or just draining, and others don't?
- They say "men want sex and women want love." You say that's backwards. Why?
- What do you think is more important—the checklist, or the connection?
- Any advice for single people looking for a relationship?
- What are your thoughts on Masculine/Feminine polarity?
- What are the most common questions or issues you work with couples on when it comes to sex, and how do you answer them?
Podcast guest appearances:
- Undomesticate with Evan Meyer
- Relationships Made Easy with Abby Medcalf
- Scott Sullivan - Mind Your Own Business
- Mastering Midlife - Mark Silverman (#1)
- Mastering Midlife - Mark Silverman (#2)
- Fights Clean Sex Dirty TV - Gaby & Raj Sundra
- Dear Men Podcast w/Melanie Curtin (#2)
- Marc Cordon Golden Mic Live
- Dr. Eva Brown Burnett Relationship Revolutionaries
- Masculinity On The Rocks - Kyle Wright
- Robert Kandell Tuff Love (#2)
- Kristi Arnett Risk Every Day (#1)
- Kristi Arnett Risk Every Day (#2)
- Stay Grounded - Raj Jana
- Sarah Nannen Grief Unveiled
I have a combined reach of nearly 15k followers between Facebook, Instagram, and Medium.